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Self-Care is not Selfish Daily, weekly, and monthly ways to put yourself first

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We all hear this time and time again: “You can’t be any good to anyone else if you don’t take care of yourself first.” But how often do we really listen to that wisdom and actually do something about it? According to the current statistics on stress, depression, and anxiety among people across society, probably not nearly enough. If you find yourself constantly getting sick, feeling tired or exhausted, or you’re no longer interested in doing things you typically enjoy, it might be a sign that you need to move your self-care off the back burner and bring your needs to the forefront.

Self-care is not necessarily something we’re good at as humans. There’s a sense of pride that we’re told comes from taking care of the needs of others and being someone people can rely on. However, that may also come at a price if we allow others’ dependence to drag us down physically, mentally, emotionally, and even spiritually. And there’s also the stigma around self-care being some sort of pretentious activity that gives people the impression you’re high maintenance or needy. But, guess what? As humans, we are needy. Our bodies have needs that must be met in order to stay healthy and well. We need to take care of ourselves first and foremost. Think of it this way, when there is an emergency on an airplane, we’re instructed to put on our own oxygen mask first before tending to children or others on the flight. This is the way we need to approach self-care. And it can be done in the simplest, least time-consuming ways and still be effective, especially when you are consistent.

The following are ways you can incorporate self-care into your life on a daily, weekly, and monthly basis:


  • Sleep at the same time each nightSelf-Care is not Selfish -
  • Listen to/read about positive news stories
  • Disconnect from your phone for a few hours
  • Give yourself a mini facial: exfoliate and moisturize your face
  • Perform morning and/or evening meditation and breathing exercises
  • Read inspirational quotes (there are plenty of calendars that include daily quotes)


  • Take a long bubble bathSelf-Care is not Selfish -
  • Get an adult coloring book and use it
  • Call a friend and catch up with one another
  • Go for a scenic walk (and to give it that extra boost, do it at sunrise or sunset)
  • Journal at the beginning of each week to plan for the week ahead and then again at the end of the week to recap what you accomplished


  • Go out to eat somewhere other than your kitchen
  • Do something spontaneous like going to a carnival or water park for a day of unrestricted fun
  • Join a book club or some other monthly meet-up style group event that best meets your interests
  • Get a manicure and/or pedicure — you can do this yourself or go to a salon and let someone else pamper you
  • Volunteer regularly for an organization that is meaningful to you (animal shelter, masjid, church, homeless shelter, etc.)Self-Care is not Selfish -
  • Attend a sporting event — local communities almost always have free, open to the public events, so this doesn’t have to be costly
  • Make a plan to meet a friend for coffee (or whatever you like to drink) a couple of weeks in advance so you have something to look forward to
  • Indulge in a guilty pleasure of your choice (stay in bed all day and watch Netflix, eat pizza and other greasy foods, or anything you don’t typically do because of restrictions you’ve placed on yourself)

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