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Men AND Women: Stop Calling Me a Slut

Men AND Women: Stop Calling Me a Slut -

Slut. Hoe. Whore.

Many of us women share this common reality in which we have been called these words, sometimes repeatedly. Whether it be for what we choose to wear, how we present ourselves, or our actual sexual experiences and adventures, these words have been surfacing around for much too long and do nothing but highlight a woman’s sexuality in a derogatory, inappropriate manner.

For myself, this name-calling, labeling, and outward offensive language is not foreign in the least.

I recently got out of a two and a half year relationship, experienced the expected heartache and post breakup blues, and finally started feeling more up and alright a few days ago. I felt in control of myself, embracing my bisexuality more than ever, and feeling confident in knowing exactly what I wanted for myself in terms of sex as well as a relationship.

I am a woman who is very comfortable in her strong sexual desires and unique sexuality. I am a woman who finds intense empowerment and acceptance of self in her sexuality. But, somehow this world thinks a lot differently than I do. Apparently, it has become a trend to shame women for their sexual choices and decisions.

My questions to those individuals that have comments to make, judgement to pass, and mentalities that are offensive and blatantly wrong, are:

How does a woman’s decisions about her sexuality, presence, and attire concern you?
How does it impact your life on a personal level if a woman can find empowerment in her sexual choices?
Why does it matter to you what a woman wants to do with her life and her body?

It truly boggles my mind that there are men and women alike who are extremely critical of a woman for the number of sexual partners that she has, for the exposure of her body in the clothing that she chooses to wear, for the adventures and exploration of her sexuality.

It is frustratingly disgusting that women are so consistently put into inferior positions and double standards; sexuality is seen as sinful for a woman, and prideful for a man.

Men are easily praised for their sexual encounters and interactions, and are at the worst point labeled “players” or in this day and age “fuck-boys”, but neither of these terms holds as much offense and derogation as those that are pinned onto women who are in touch with their sexuality and equally sexually active.

I am a woman who is very comfortable in her strong sexual desires and unique sexuality.

Men are excused because, “that’s how they all are”, but women are labeled, targeted, stigmatized, demeaned, and judged harshly for the exact same actions. It is unfair, but is any of this foreign to women? Obviously not.

Despite feminist movements that challenge the world to accept women for the empowerment they feel and that exists from their sexuality, it is no secret that women face harsher standards than men. But the very reality of the matter is that under no circumstances should it ever be acceptable for a woman to be subject to ridicule and offensive terminology simply for being sexually active to the extent that they wish.

There is no legitimate and appropriate time to ever call a woman a whore, slut or a hoe. Ever.

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