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Me and my boyfriend of 6 months broke up four weeks ago. I broke it off because he wasn’t changing. He kept doing all of the same things that were pushing me away for three months. The three months that we had real issues was probably the worst three months of my life. He lost his job and his car got repossessed. Then I had to support him for a while and he started talking to my one of my girlfriends on Instagram. I just had enough of his lies and all the bullshit he was putting me through so I ended it. Now he’s sending me Snapchat videos of him partying with girls at a club or inside hotel rooms and crazy shit. Why is he doing this and why does it still bother me?
Dear Newly Single Heart,
I’m so sorry you’re hurting. It takes a tremendous amount of courage to walk away from someone you love because you love yourself more. Now, it should come as some solace to you to know that it’s almost always the hard decisions we make in life that are the right ones to make. Receiving those types of Snapchats from your ex is something that, I can only imagine, is heartbreaking. I’m so sorry for that. It must be truly awful. What you’re feeling is perfectly normal. You’re a woman who gave her heart to a man only to realize that she deserves better. You decided to leave and now he’s punishing you with his inappropriate Snapchats.
You’re a woman who gave her heart to a man only to realize that she deserves better.
Here’s the hard truth: you NEED to block your ex from all social networks. All you’re doing is feeding into your ex’s desire to torture you. More often than not, the ‘Let Me Show You How Great I’m Doing Without You,’ game usually translates to “I’m Fucking Miserable.” You need to block him from sending you anything from Snapchats to a Twitter message. He needs to have absolutely no way of getting in touch with you so that you can do what you need to be doing – moving on with your fabulous life. A woman learns a lot about the man she who thought would be her Forever when the two breakup. It seems as though your ex is only validating the main reason you’re no longer together; you have to trust in your decision to end things. You truly deserve better.